Harem in novels

Depends on the setting, if you have a world that its based on how strong you are, when mc is really strong girls falling for left and right its obvious something that would happen

I enjoy harems much more than normal romances, to me both a single girl or a harem have most of the works failing extremely hard to deliver something decent and to me both are the same while being different, i have my limits i dont want mc to having every girl as his wife, they can be concubines or something but i really like only if a few them that are the true love interest and actually explored with some sort of relationship

I also extremely dislike harems that doesnt have mc getting into a polygamy, its not necessary even having the tag it always scream to me the author wants to bring audience by having this kind of work not to mention mcs never being able to make moves on the girls but the girls have to be the ones chasing the whole work after the dude(mostly looking to you JP novels)

that said if the author knows how to work with interactions and characters he can make it work, it needs the author to put some effort into it and not just throwing characters into the history and doing nothing with them 

Oh you know how to differentiate them.

I don't pay enough attention to. 

Simply put, men are not supposed to be monogamous. It is one of the artificial restrictions we humans put on ourselves. Think about it scientifically, only men have Y chromosome that can initiate birth of another male child. there 3 X and only one Y. meaning there would naturally be more and more women than men. what would happen to the extra women in case they are heterosexual?

I consider this restriction to be on the same level as not doing human experiments to find cure for HIV, AIDS, cancer and many other disease, as well as hormone and stem cell research. This kind of nonsense are holding back human race. 

Also I just found out that soy product's consumption leads to hormonal imbalance aka soyboy, no wonder Japanese male mc.are mostly beta due to high soy diet that contains
Oestrogen. 

Wow...I feel for ya wee cricket.  You don't know enough about me and now sound like a petulant child.  ^.^  Lets say, I don't work on assumptions but you sure do.  ^.^ 

Sorry i have to work, i will give a long answer at the night.

Shonin sample and cerburus harem situation is different than date a live.

In shonin sample and cerburus, the mc can choose the girl his love.
And you can curse the mc and cry for your favorite girl.

But in date a live the mc has a favorite but can't break up with harem.  He try to break with one girl and it didn't work.

Edit : Don't need a long answer. 

For me, the harem needs to make a certain amount of sense in the novel's setting.
For instance, just looking at a historical standpoint:

In medieval Europe, from the kings and high nobles, to your average knights, it wasn't rare for them to have at least one mistress, and it would actually be rarer if they were fully faithful, although it did happen. For European nobles, their marriages were political, spouses chosen based on an equation of friends, foes, benefits and more. Their mistresses in turn were chosen from reasons ranging from love to lust to vanity and more.

Even in the past two to three hundred years there were times when aristocrats in certain countries were expected to have a mistress, if only as a mark of their status. Victorian era (or there abouts) England had such a period.

In ancient China and Japan, having multiple wives or concubines was an established practice, and we could go on and on.

If you look at ancient heroes from myth, most of them had various lovers or mistresses, with the Celtic hero Cu Chulain and the Greek Hercules being prime examples.


What I essentially mean is, the harem needs to make sense in the setting of the novel, and with regards to the main character in question. 

I don't really read LN because they are so long in chapters but I am a harem anime/manga fan!