you would be surprised at what is different for one person from the next. I have had MANY family members in a short span of time die. from the ages of 7 to 12 I had no less than 14 family members die, at least one of them drew their last breaths in my childhood home.
I have a cloudy memory that I never even understood until later in my life, when I was sub 5 years old(I'm not sure when) I vaguely recall a member of my extended family coming into my room and doing "something" to me I don't know why they were straddling such a young unicorn and I can't recall enough detail to know what happened. all I know is that group of my extended family has never been around since then.
the difference for me is; death is an end. there is no more pain for that person after they are dead
Rape never ends. you scar a person internally forever. if they can recall all the details of the rape they never forget it. some people never move on with their lives afterward. they are kept in constant pain for the rest of the living waking lives.
I don't believe in suffering, if someone kills my family member or friends for any reason other than self-defense, I would put them down, simple as that.
If someone rapes a family member or friend, I'm not going to castrate them, because I don't believe in suffering, I would put them down, simple as that.
"people" who fall to their baser desires and go around killing or raping people "because" are no more to me than animals who need to be put down.
edit: I don't read CN stuff so I wouldn't know but if I came across a "Male Lead" who was like "well the only thing to fix this situation is to force them to have more sex against their will" I'm dropping that novel harder than a sack of bricks