What Women Want in Male Lead

There's certainly a gap moe going on there, and doesn't everyone like it when they're being treated in a special manner?

Though it really is a bit..... uh, boring? Annoying? At least 8/9 times out of 10 in these novels (as mentioned in some posts above), the male lead is much more OP and will stalk and/or harass the female MC. So he will one-sidedly bother her while she is busy face-slapping enemies and ruining treacherous family members/friends or some sh*t. It's a dynamic seen often in (CN?) shoujo and yaoi (at least with gong MLs):
ML: *notices MC, gets increasingly obsessed, starts the stalking and/or harassing*
MC: *minds their own business but can't escape the grasp of ML, eventually develops feelings after maybe getting harassed a bit/a lot*
I frankly like novels more where the leads first meet/spend time together due to some common goal/mission/interest and fall in love while slowly getting to know each other. Much more pleasant and less shallow than some guy going cray cray over some other girl/guy that looks nice, has interesting charisma or displays some uncommon skills once, and then the only reason they interact is because of said guy's obsession.

If I were to meet someone like that irl..... uuuhhh. Those traits create an image of a person that's troublesome af.
"Demonic, Two faced, Evil, Tyrannical, Arrogant, Black Belly, Sly, Cold. Overbearing"
So many red flags. Avoid over 9000

ikr... I once watched a kdrama with that kinda trope 2-3 years ago and I seemed to have found it cute so I tried rewatching it a few months ago... it was bad. orz I can't believe I didn't find it cringeworthy at the time XDD 

Maybe it was really because of the female's expectation on what a man should be or something... like no matter how bad a man can be, for me he will change his ways for the better blah blah~

Its no denying that I like those kind of concepts in which a man changes for the better for the sake of his woman...
But I get your point, those titles were really a bit too sad when combined...

That's why I'm a full-pledge fujoshi now... but I don't think anyone wants to know that...heh 

Transcending Nine Heavens but it's not really a romance novel, just a good cultivation one. Smart MC. With occassional good comedy. 

Yes, because yaoi and shounen-ai genre mostly written and read by females.
I don't even know if any gay-male write yaoi....

Ah, another one thing I had long time wondered....Why is it in the shoujo/ josei, the romantic entanglement often started with rape?

Or maybe sexual harassment. Forcing a kiss to a woman (by surprise or strength) is sexual harassment by today standard, yes? But the female will blush if the handsome male lead did it. But it will be instant crime - jail if ugly male did it, right? 

As a chinese female that loves romance novels, I actually hate the black belly trope.
I fine with a bit of possessiveness or selfishness and all.
But I’m sick of these Chinese novels with rapey jerks as Male leads, and all that’s going for them is their face and power.
Cause let’s face it, if the ml was black belly and powerful but if looked ugly he would immediately be a villain.

Can I have a likeable nice guy ml for once? 

I only finished reading one fmc story, 'My Disciple Died Yet Again'. The ml is not in anyway bad or demonic though. 

Isn't it the same like why some male like abusive tsundere heroine? Something about gap moe where they had hidden good side or sometimes kind only to MC. 

I'll add this magical ingredient in :
Main Character