I'm not sure how close she got to them prior to the last few chapters, because I only bothered to read the ending. Her older sister was probably disposed of because she wasn't mentioned again in the last chapters. She was shu-born anyway so it was unlikely that MC's parents would kick up a fuss. The ones who came to the fourth imperial son's ceremony were the MC's father and mother, who was the furen of their residence. I doubt her mother knew she was no longer the original though, but she was just very relieved that her "daughter" turned out fine and was able to thrive in the imperial harem. Her father resigned and got a honorable title without real power, but because of the emperor's favor, many people wanted to make marriage connections with MC's maiden family.