To bear arms or not to, that is the debate. Unfair advantage making it a vote when you have way more men than women.
But personally, I would make an armory and lock it, making it a last resort solution. If people want to train on their free time they can use wooden swords/sticks, but no swords or weapons allowed unless they’re needed to react to an attack. I’m not sure where they’ll find all of the materials right away to make weapons though. Thorfinn needs to compromise with his group, he can remain a pacifist and not pick up a sword/daggers if he chooses to. Although conflict with the first nation is inevitable.