Harems are just illogical to begin with that's why so many people hate the freaking genre, only novel that I've read where actually the harem makes some sense was sevens, and that was bcuz the Mc actually had balls to reject the other girls and pursue the one he liked (he got screwed in the end anyway and had to accept the harem ending ) but beyond that every female character was pretty well developed and didn't seemed like the usual one that only served to praise the mc, the issue is that if someone knows that he has enough qualities as a person then why should he give up in his love interests?? That's what would lead to the harem but things in reality would end up differently (ntr, cheating, "stealing" the couple etc) after all no one likes to share, cn people seem to really care about "face" that's why shit escalates so quickly when someone offends someone else and his "dignity", is not a problem with the novels is a issue of different culture