Bullying

I was never really a gossipy person, and stayed away from toxic people. I played up the quiet shy girl and made people feel bad for bullying me. Did I get bullied? Ehhh, a little, but I was a cringy little kid. Name calling, laughing behind backs- that kind of thing. I don't really think any of those kids were bad people though...they stopped if I ignored them or just silently stared at them. Once I laughed when someone called me a nerd because- lol really, that's so cliche...nerd's not an insult.

Unfortunately, I have seen worse bullying to other people. It's worse for guys I think, physically at least. Girl's might get it worse with shunning, name calling, and gossip, but this one guy told me some guys tried to kick down the door in his stall when he was in the restroom. Like, who does that?!

There was this other girl who transferred from a special ed class who got bullied because people said she was dumb....hehe, she beat them up though. Got suspended a couple times, but she was just shunned afterward.

I never hung out with the crowd that did it, and I'm naturally shy and reserved when I don't know people irl. These are just excuses for why I didn't intervene though. I never mistreated her, and I tried to get along with her the few times we talked...which was only once haha...I carry a bit of guilt still..

I rarely saw violence honestly, but I also actively avoided it. My cousin says it happens all the time, and the stories she tells...sigh, I'm just glad she's really intimidating, charismatic, and has loyal friends to back her up. She really can't stand bullying, and stops it when she sees it *admiration*. 

Mostly name calling, fighting, teasing and some extortion but most end up in fighting in my school. Its mostly ignored unless someone bleeds or the commotion got too big. Since it does help children stand up for themselves and take things with a grain of salt.

I suppose extremes does happem somewhere but dont know much about that.

Im still calling crazy when someone made an advertisement about bullies are the victim and we shouldn't blame them. That was a balloon floating in a needed cage if you ask me. 

Well, kids are a victim of their living situation. It could be their parents treat them like that so they emulate it. Or it could be they are used to being kicked around and want to be the other party for once...or they could be taking their repressed feelings out on you. Tons of reasons, the world isn't black and white. Sometimes it is just because it makes them feel powerful or they're sociopathic, but I think that's rare. It doesn't excuse it by any means, and it sucks when you start sympathizing or empathizing with them.

This actually happens fairly often in light novels because the MC transmigrates into a villains body. 

Yea that happened to me the first time I used the bathroom in school so I never used it again. The repeated kicking on the stall gave me a heart attack man. That's why I try to never use public restrooms now. Even if someone knocks on the door to ask if someone is in it, gives me anxiety.
I think it might be worse for guys though if I stared back at them while they are doing something to me. Some goons confronted me in the hallway once by blocking my path and just started talking so much shit and I was just staring at him. Probably a bad move cause he punched me at my chin and then pushed me down.*blahblahblah* After that, I couldn't really look at people in the eye anymore. If you ever saw me irl you'll never see me looking at your eyes. I'll look everywhere else if it's the table or the sky w/e it takes.
This probably made my social skills even worse tbh. I don't have any female friends so I literally can't talk to any girls. And if I do have to talk to girls I ain't looking at them in the eyes I usually keep my head down. And hey guess what? Girls kinda don't want guys looking down on their chests. 

This is not limited to novels , this happens in real life.

For instance there was a chubby guy in my class , he experienced bullying and nobody said anything about it , because they feared them themselves. The only person in class who stood up to these people, was me as I had boxing training from my father and wasn't afraid of these people. My act here isn't important , don't want to turn this into a humble brag.

The point is , depending on the severity of the bullying and the type of people you are facing you will get different reactions.
Sometimes people will inform the teachers , sometimes they wont.
In this case the people who bullied the chubby guy , weren't COMPLETLY bad , just utterly stupid , they kinda pushed him around , but never really hurt the guy. However emotional harm has certainly done as they drove him to tears.

I see similarity with novels in this case , people like to talk about virtues, but acting on one is difficult, maybe 1 in 30 people does.
Maybe less, add to this the fact that we're talking about feudal systems of power. 

Yes! Exactly! Sometimes even when I'm reading embarassing situations I have to stop and either skip ahead or stop reading altogether. And yeah, my school was pretty bad on that front as well. My cousins goes to the same school I did, and she's just a few years younger than me. She sees a lot more stuff than I ever did, I can tell you that much. Maybe I'm just a natural airhead? Well, I did witness a couple fights, but I never rushed over to see them like everyone else...so maybe that's why?

My brother told me he was bullied a little too and ignored it. Then someome went too far and he snapped and lifted them against a locker in the locker room, shook them a little bit, and gave him the crazy eye. Suffice to say, it never happened again. Way crazier than anything I ever experienced for sure. 

One day when I was in high school, a few friends called me because 2 of our schoolmates are fighting. I was a big dude then and they expect me to do something about it. So I did. But Schoolmate A and Schoolmate B are really getting at it. I jump in the middle of the fight but one hand stopping one kid each is not exactly an effective way of stopping the fight. I was a foot taller than them but those kids were really fueled by anger and adrenaline.
Eventually, Schoolmate A got on top of Schoolmate B and started pummeling the other guy, so I grabbed Schoolmate A from the back, And I sort of lock his arms for a moment before I throw him to one side. I glared at the other dude and told him to stay there. The fight was over and that was that.
Schoolmates A and B and Me are all in different cliques but I thought for my part that we were mostly friends. Certainly we were civil to each other. We nodded to each other if we see each other in the mall, or cheer each other in school plays or sports if the others are playing. I remember a lot of ribbing and jokes with each other throughout high school. Then high school is over and we went on our separate lives.
About ten years later, there was a school reunion for our batch and I attended and so did Schoolmate A. He sat down next to me and I warmly welcome him.
"I just need to say this because its what my shrink wants me to do.  I was so angry when you and schoolmate B gang up on me in our freshmen years."
"What?"
"You know when you held me down while Schoolmate B beat me up. It was a traumatic experience for me for a long time, I felt anger, humiliation, and frustration during that time that I still carry and I think it affected some of my relationships. But I forgive you."
He didn't say it like that exactly word for word, but that is the gist of what he said, and my jaws dropped. I think I  remember saying something like, "ookay." When I asked some of my friends about that fight, All they can say is, "man that was a long time ago, I don't remember." 

Starting young ..